sheghan’s Blog

Online dating seems to have gained more acceptance and popularity over the years. About 10 years ago, people who have met online were perceived as not being able to get a date in person or couples would lie and make up a different story how they met. Nowadays, people of all ages, races, and economic background are making up the online dating community and actually prefer to meet someone online for many reasons. But, how do you go about meeting someone online and seperate yourself from the millions of other men and women out there looking at the same profile. The same basic rules apply online as they do in person:

2.  Read the profile and scan the picture carefully.  What is this person trying to convey? What do they like to do?  What are they looking for?  Your first line should not be “you are beautiful and i can fall easily in love with you”.  Do they like cooking? Are they looking for a person with a sense of humor?  Go with that.  

3.  After you send the initial email, do not follow up with emails asking if he/she received yours, how come they aren’t answering, pr did they find someone else?  If you sent the email, then the chances is they did receive it. If they haven’t responded then it might because they aren’t interested or something might be going on in their personal lives. Or maybe they are thinking about it. If you haven’t received a response then in a week or two its okay to send another just saying hi or move on.  Don’t have a fantasy in your head this person is your true love or try to contemplate why they didn’t respond, just move on. 

4.  Get your ownself together before trying to find another.  

5.  Take updated pics of yourself and what you like to do.  

These are just basic steps and I am sure with dedication and confidence then you will attract the right person. If you haven’t been successful then try another dating site or try thinking outside of the box. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut and don’t see it and the slightest change will bring about wonders. Until next time my little dating dudes and divas.. kisses and hugs.

LF

Here’s to a great New Year! Traditionally, this is the time for resolutions  - and no exception to the list for many men is to have a steady girlfriend, the sooner the better. Although asking a girl out is somewhat intimidating, her saying yes indicates that she has some interest in you and is looking forward to spending some quality time with YOU!  You thought the hard part was over, try again, now its time to make that wonderful girl yours.  Here are some dating dos and don’ts to help you along.

1.  Unless you have been dating for awhile and have already spent a great deal of time together, do not pay with a coupon.  Some exceptions to this rule is if the coupon was obtained while you both were on an outing and then decided to attend the particular eatery together or if she brings up the coupon. 

2.  Bringing your girlfriend flowers is nice but everytime you see each other is a bit annoying.  In addition, notes on her car saying that you love her or good morning borders on psycho unless you have been dating for awhile or have spent the night.  Then, of course, not all of the time. 

4.  Tip big. Enough said.

5.  She needs her days off from you too, encourage her to spend time with friends, don’t act if she has a date with Jimmy down the street. Even if she does, who cares, as long as you are not committed means that she can keep her options open to.  

6.  When it is decided to have a committed and/or sexual relationship don’t assume she will take care of the birth control herself or freak out if she is already on the pill. Just because she is on the pill doesn’t mean she is having sex with anyone, the pill can be used for medical reasons as well.  If you can’t afford a box of condoms then how can you afford a kid?

7.  After your first date, call her to thank her for the wonderful time together.  Keep the conversation no more than 5 minutes long and then let her know that you will call again. Keep your promise.  If you decide that you don’t want to pursue dating her, then let her know nicely and why.  Perhaps this can help her with further relationships.  

8.  Plan the first couple of dates and then before the third or fourth one, ask her what she would like to do. This gives you a chance to show her that you are a good provider and lots of fun.  Then when its her turn, that indicates that you are open to her imput as well. Nothing is worse then picking up a woman for a date, turning to her and asking what she would like to do. If you need ideas or further information on what she likes to do for fun, discuss this beforehand.

9.  Be honest in what you want. She will respect you for it.

10.  Be yourself - don’t pretent to be someone you are not. You both will be happier.

LF